As September near, so does Hispanic Heritage Month and I can't help but reflect on our culture and the pressures it sometimes puts on us as complex human beings. It's one thing to be a Latina in a Latin country... it's a whole different thing to be a Latina in a country where there isn't many of you and nobody quite understands certain things about you.
When we moved to the USA, my parents decided to talk to us in English (whether it was to help rid us of our accents or strengthen our vocabulary, I don't know) and help us blend in as much as four Mexicans in the middle of New Jersey could. There were certain things my mother made me shy from - big hoop earrings, the "wet hair" look, tight clothing - that my fellow Latinas in Florida wore that affirmed them as "Hispanic" but mother said was pretty much trashy. It wasn't until I moved to a part of the world where I come across few Latinxs that I started to truly embrace my roots (including the food, music, wet hair look, and big hoop earrings).
Yet it isn't easy to overcome the overwhelming cultural and societal norms our culture places on us.
C and I are no strangers to a long-distance relationship and we've found a few ways to make long-distance work while I'm in Perth and he is in Sydney.
We met in Sydney a few years ago when I was living there inbetween degrees (fun fact: I tried to get a PhD position in that city to no avail... the Universe works in mysterious ways). After moving across the country to start my degree, I moved back to Sydney during the pandemic to have a support system to rely on in case I got sick. We were lucky that during that time we got to live together but damn does the time now apart suck even more because I know how awesome it is to share a home with him.
So, do long distance relationships work? They do! But, it's really hard and first and foremost you will need to accept that it will not be easy. So here are ten tips that have helped us to make the distance seem not as trying...
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